My husband and I have been having the same fight since we got married. I say I need more help. He gets defensive. We go back and forth with examples of things we each do or don’t do. This weekend, we finally broke the cycle. We brain dumped everything we could think of, marked must vs. want, assigned person responsible, and estimated time. At the end we each committed to a list we’d do by the end of this week. It feels like years of weight off our shoulders. We thought we had been arguing about tasks but we really were just debating vague feelings. Setting clear ownership, KPIs, and deadlines feels daunting or even like overkill. But it actually makes life better. Even in a marriage.